About me…

Hello world!

My name is Jessey and I’m a mom of 2 toddlers and a wife to a wonderful supportive husband. I also do part time work as the Children’s Director for Imago Dei Church. I love my family and my job, and my husband and I love discussing and participating in interfaith dialogue. I’m glad you came for a visit!

11 thoughts on “About me…”

  1. Hi Jessey,

    My name is Samantha Chatman from News 25 in Peoria. Caught your story this weekend and I think what you’re doing is quite admirable. Is there anyway you could spare time in your schedule to grant me an interview for our local station. Im sure many people here would love to follow your journey.


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  2. Dear shroudedmemories,

    The issue isn’t whether Muslim women are oppressed in the United States. The issue is Muslim women living in the Middle East and parts of Asia like Pakistan, India and Bangladesh.

    In fact you claiming you’re not oppressed here is really doing a disservice to your Muslim sisters elsewhere. You’re essentially saying forget about it, move along, nothing to see here because you have the gift of living in the freest society on planet Earth.

    But indeed there IS something to see. We shouldn’t “move along”. You’re feeling the full rush of American freedom doesn’t give you the right to end the debate. 🙂

    I would paste some useful links clearly demonstrating my point but “ChutesAndLeaves” won’t post my message if I do. 🙂



  3. GG-

    The point of that post was that MUSLIM women aren’t oppressed because they are muslim. Women are oppressed ALL OVER the world.

    Women living in France that practice Christianity are oppressed as are Christian women who live in Spain, or the USA but we don’t go around saying “Christian women” are oppressed.

    We (muslim women) aren’t oppressed as a whole – we experience the same statistics as women all over the world but because we are Muslim everything is branded as being due to or part of our faith.

    So again I reiterate the point of the post was that while Muslim women may experience abuse, oppression, and inequality – it isn’t due to Islam. 1 in 4 women in the US experience domestic violence (i.e. OPPRESSION) regardless of faith, ethnicity, race, or economic status. But Muslim women specifically are always labeled as “oppressed” (mostly because we choose to dress in a way that makes people in the west uncomfortable)

    My whole life people assumed I needed “saving” from my “oppression” because I wore a scarf on my head and I must’ve been forced to wear it by my tyrannical father. The truth was, he didnt care if I covered or not, but he was a violent, abusive, mean man. Just like so many other non-Muslim that I have seen while volunteering in domestic violence court in the city I live in (in the USA).

    Islam gives me [women] rights above those afforded to me by the US constitution.

    I find it interesting that you are telling me what my experience is or isn’t or what it should or shouldn’t be. I “experience the full rush of American freedom” even though I have been oppressed more in the US than the women I know who were raised in the middle east. Note: oppressed because I was a female, not because I was muslim.



  4. SM,

    “I find it interesting that you are telling me what my experience is”…..Again you’re talking about your experience within the U.S. I’m not talking about that. The worst problems Muslim women face are experienced outside the U.S. For example, women can’t even drive a car in Saudi Arabia. Statistics from the Afghan Independent Human Rights Commission showed that about 60-80% of the total marriages in Afghanistan are forced and/or underage marriages, some to girls as young as 9! In Pakistan Malala Yousafzai was shot in the head and almost killed just for going to school after the Taliban outlawed education for girls.


    Is it fair for you to dismiss the myriad of abuse Muslim women face outside of the U.S. just because you haven’t experienced anything near as brutal here?



  5. Dear Jessey, I personally love what you are doing and how you are speaking so boldly of the Love of Jesus for all humanity! I sorta know what it’s like to be serving in a small way and be picked up by the media and given a “platform” from which to proclaim God’s love. This happened to me and my husband when we were serving as quiet medical missionaries in Liberia; then he got sick with Ebola virus disease. Even now, months after his recovery, we still find ourselves speaking to large audiences and reporters about God’s love for the nations.
    I am really proud of you and your speaking peace and love and compassion. The Lord has given you a wonderful message to share: Love God. Love people.
    So, I thank you. Thank you for your faithful quiet service in the local church and for your faithful service of proclaiming His goodness to the masses. I know it’s hard and you’re getting eaten alive. Cling to Jesus. He is lighting your path.
    I love you.
    -Amber Joy

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  6. Jesse Dearest, thank you for the kindness and the love. Tolerance and respect are exactly the essence of religion. We may not agree on everything, but we can live together in harmony and dignity. There are bad and rotten apples in each religion, but I am happy that you are not letting stereotypes and hatred separate you from muslims. God has created diversity for a reason and we need to accept his plan and embrace each other. I am very proud of you even if i don’t know you. Happy easter and my God accept your lent.

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  7. Hello, Jessey!
    I came here after reading your story on BBC. I have an interest in the Muslim culture and I’ve been studying the controversy surrounding hijab-wearing women in France. Thanks for trying to make this world a better place!
    Greetings from Brazil,

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  8. Hi Jessey,
    I teared up a bit reading many of your blog posts. Women across many faiths and cultures are more often than not treated as property and unequal. It takes a lot of courage to become visibly different to challenge your own pre-conceived notions of people and different cultures/religions. As Americans we generalize and even dismiss the experiences that entire populations of people experience on a daily basis. Many see the hijab as a sign of oppression only because they have never taken the time to understand WHY the women who wear it choose to wear it. It’s easier to just assume that someone is different because they look different, are a different religion, or from a different cultural background. What we forget is that as women we crave the same dreams worldwide: becoming educated, choosing who we can marry, having a family, and just living in peace. But, sadly, that is not the reality for many simply because they are female. Thank you for being so awesome and putting this discussion out there.


  9. Hi!
    I have bumped into your hijab experiment somewhere in the internet. I read a bit about you and you seem to be so likeable. I’m interested in Islam so you and your husband are kinda role models for me for your commitment. It’s great that you actually have a lot of experience with Muslims and spread a message unlike jerks who know shit and are full of animosity and such. Thank you for what you are doing and the main thing how I could sum this up:
    RESPECT! 😉
    Greetings from Prague,
    Matouš Heller

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